Love comes in all forms. – Francine
So for the next few weeks, I will be talking about common romance themes in books. I’m not sure if I’ll continue this after the month so anything can happen. Today’s topic is insta-love. I think some bloggers will be tackling this subject in the last weeks of February. I forgot where I saw it. But I’ve been meaning to write about this since last year.
Please note that this merely consists of my thoughts regarding the matter, and I am open to everyone’s opinion.
I didn’t really know the concept of insta-love until I became active in the book blogosphere. I must admit that until now I barely know what it means. Needless to say, I have nothing against it, and I even fall in love with books with insta-love. I mostly find out that it is considered insta-love when I read another review that points it out.
As I understand it, insta-love is a kind of relationship development when a the two characters instantly know that they want to be together in a day/week/etc. And I honestly don’t know what is wrong with that. Yes, it is true that they barely know each other, but it doesn’t mean they can’t do so. I think what’s important is the connection between the characters, and how an author is able to convince its readers. I’m a big fan of romance, and I believe anything can happen. I don’t think the time is important, but rather how it is felt.
Author Veronica Roth talks about how it is the author’s responsibility to make the relationship feel real, but she also points out that we shouldn’t easily discount what one first felt in a relationship. I think that she asked really good questions and made a couple of good points so it might be nice to read the article. I also found another interesting read from Breaking the Binding. She admits that she hates insta-love in books, but she admits that it actually happens with teens. She says that insta-love has some grounds in reality, but it doesn’t mean one has to like it. I would lastly like to share Nitzan’s post at Drugs Called Books entitled Forgiving Insta-love. She posted this one in 2013 and I was already following her blog at the time, and I particularly liked this one. What’s so special about it is that Nitzan talks about her friend’s true love story. It was insta-love. In fact the story feels a little like something one could find in a book. But it’s all real! Out of all the links, I recommend to read Nitzan’s. I’m sure there are a lot more posts about insta-love. The internet has it all.
I am in no position to say what anyone should believe. But I believe that love can take any form. I would lastly like to share my own experience if no one would mind. If you do, then go ahead and skip to the comment section and sound off what you feel about the matter. Continuing my story, I met this guy a few days ago. He was my best friend’s high school classmate. It wasn’t love at first sight nor was it about appearances. It was more about what happened that day I met him. And I honestly could not stop thinking about him. I have only spent about 9 hours with him, and I didn’t even interact with him for the first 2 or 3 hours because I’m an introvert like that. My best friend’s advice is to just go for it and confess my feelings for him. We’re all Japanese anime lovers so he suggested I do it like the girls do in an anime with a letter. So I will share what I’ve written so far. I might still change it up. You can offer advice about it too, and tell me if I’m being crazy. I would greatly appreciate it. Also, I hope he doesn’t find and read this post until I tell him. Lol. Also the ones in parentheses are not part of the actual letter.
- I don’t really know what you know about me, but I liked how you opened a conversation with the mention of a book (He asked me about An Abundance of Katherines by John Green). I don’t find a lot of people who do that. In fact, I’ve never met a person in real life who would talk books with me. (I’m sure a couple of bookworms would agree. Instant swoon. :P) I like how you called me by my full first name (Francine Soleil). It reminds me of The Fault in Our Stars (which he read) and how Augustus’ endearingly calls her Hazel Grace. I admire your fascination with the aesthetics of beautiful words. I relate to your fondness for paper, and I like how you repurpose some into a thing of beauty (he makes origami).
- I thank you kindly for your patience and for holding my hand throughout the whole ordeal of teaching me how to iceskate. I went into that rink thinking that I’d be a failure, but you showed me that I had more in me than I care to believe. I like how you cared about my little emergency on the car ride home. That just about melted my heart. I find you kind and charming.
- “I’m not in the business of denying myself the simple pleasure of saying true things.” (John Green, The Fault in Our Stars) I must confess that I’m afraid of telling you this, but I once read that it’s okay to do it afraid. The unexpectedness of life shouldn’t reign us. I don’t meet a lot of people like you and I dare not pass off the chance. You don’t know much about me, and I can’t promise you’d like what you’ll find, but would you like to give it a chance? I’d really like to know you more.
Am I a little too sappy? XD
To anyone interested to answer, what is insta-love all about? Do you hate insta-love? Do you like insta-love? What makes you like or hate it? Or simply just tell me whatever you think or feel about insta-love.